We’re super excited to welcome amazing blogger Shannon of Pink Lemonade & Paperbacks to chat all about getting over those fictional deaths that make us sob our bookish hearts out.
I’m more emotionally attached to fictional characters than I am to real people. It’s a bit of a problem – especially when they die. I mean, it’s happened to all of us, right? One moment we’re falling head over heels for someone in a book, film or a TV show. And then out of the blue, and a cliff-hanger or two later, they die (and not of natural causes, either). We all know what ensues after a moment as dramatic as that: a broken heart, and an unhealthy amount of crying. Want to know to get over it? Here are my tips and tricks.
Step 1: Let the tears flow
After the death of a fictional character, you’re going to be emotional. In fact, that’s probably a bit of an understatement. You’re going to be in pieces. My advice on how to cope with the loss of your favourite character? Let the tears flow. Honestly. Cry it out of your system, head towards the fridge, eat whatever you want (I mean, this kind of situation always calls for ice-cream, right?) and sleep it off. FYI, talking to a friend – one who understands exactly how you feel, and is as obsessed as you are about a book / movie / TV series – will probably help you come to terms with a character’s loss a lot quicker.
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Step 2: Accept the truth
Let’s face it: even after crying, you’re probably going to be in denial. After spending seven years devoted to a TV show, or after seven hours reading a book, you’re not going to want to accept the immediate truth of what’s just happened. But once the initial shock has worn off, you need to tell yourself something. There’s nothing – I repeat, nothing at all – that you could have done to prevent this (unless, of course, you kidnapped the writer of the show or the author of the book and blackmailed them into changing the script. Which I definitely don’t recommend for anyone to do).
Step 3: Reflect back on the character’s life events
You’re probably thinking that this makes no sense at all. Why torture yourself by thinking about the life your favourite character had, when you don’t want to think about it at all? Here’s the thing: it actually subdues the pain. Let me tell you a little spoiler-free story. A few years ago, I started watching a TV show called The Walking Dead. It was great. Pretty gory. Dramatic. And there were lots of deaths (season 8, I hate you right now). You know what helped me get over them? I watched the episode for the second time over . . . and because I was prepared for what was about to happen this time round, the pain didn’t hurt so much. (FYI, when a favourite character of mine died in The Vampire Diaries, I freaked out big time, and ended up binge-watching all of the seasons again just to remind myself that the life they lived was a good one, and their death wasn’t in complete vain).
Step 4: Internet Support Group
The final step in coming to terms with the death of your favourite fictional character is by turning to the internet for support. For me, the internet is a great place to spend my time grieving over the loss of a character – even though I may scare away some people by typing in aggressive capital letters or keyboard spamming like I’ve been possessed (but seriously, when you can’t express your emotions in words, keyboard spamming ‘jdfwwskl’ is a great way of explaining your frustration).
On sites like tumblr, Wattpad, Twitter and Instagram, you can literally find a community of your favourite book / TV series / film anywhere, where fangirls and fanboys alike unite over the death of a characters, forming a support group of sorts. It’s a great way to get over the death of a fictional character because 1) they understand your pain, and 2) they can make you actually laugh about what’s happened. Trust me. Memes from The Walking Dead, episode 1 season 8 were circulating everywhere. And even though I was grieving, I found them pretty hilarious, which kind of eased the pain.
How do you mourn the death of a fictional character? Share your tips in the comments below – and feel free to Tweet me @shannoliviab.
Find Shannon on her blog at: pinklemonadeandpaperbacks.blogspot.com
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